My name is Ben Kaneaiakala and the owner of Phoenix rising addiction center. We’re located in Laguna Hills, California. I thank you for joining me today. Uh, we’ve been asked to produce, uh, and do some videos on recovery. Um, talking about the steps, uh, talking about alcoholism and drug addiction and some various other addiction topics. And, uh, so we’re putting these, these videos together, uh, so that we can share with you on our YouTube channel at Phoenix rising addiction center. And you can find us there. You can subscribe at the end of our video, but one of the things that, and I’ll be doing this on a regular basis on our channel, and you can follow us there and also on Facebook and on Instagram and all of the social media platforms. So please follow us and support us here at Phoenix rising addiction center. And thank you very much for watching us and looking forward to sharing more about, uh, recovery with you, Mala. Hello? Hello. This has been [inaudible] from Phoenix rising addiction center.
Thank you guys for joining me today. We’re going to be discussing a topic today regarding step one of the 12 step program. Uh, I am going to use, uh, not just alcoholism drug addiction, but any other type of addiction or a struggle that a person might be having as it relates to step one out of the 12 and 12. Um, so we’re going to kind of dig into a little different topics. So, I hope you enjoy this and welcome to Phoenix rising addiction center. Okay, so let’s dive into this, uh, this discussion of step one, uh, that we admitted that we were alcoholics drug addicts, any addiction, uh, that we admitted that we’re powerless, um, and that our lives had become unmanageable. Uh, what does it mean to, to, to do that, to admit powerlessness that that I’m powerless over something? A lot of the times when, when people walk into a treatment center or they’re walking into a 12 step program, they’ve gotten themselves into a place of their lives where it’s, it’s not only affecting them mentally, physically, it’s starting to impact their external world where their families are being hurt and being involved, their jobs are being affected. Their finances are being affected. They’re starting to lose things they’re bouncing around from job to job. They don’t have a job they’re unable to sustain a job they’re drinking and are using, uh, throughout the day, uh, various times throughout the day when they start drinking, they can’t stop. Um, and or any other addiction for that matter too, where there’s so much time and energy spent on that particular issue or that particular topic or that particular instinct. One of the things that we like to dig into also here is, and, and even in my sobriety is working on building character. And one of the things that the program, uh, we’ll, we’ll, we’ll talk about it is, is our instincts, our God given instincts, um, or, uh, the seven deadly sins as they call them of pride in ego of lust, uh, of anger, of gluttony, of, um, envy of greed, um, and all of those, all of those, uh, instincts, any of them can go into powerlessness and unmanageability. So one of the things that I like to do is besides alcoholism and drug addiction started digging into some of those other instincts and see how they’re not only impacting maybe the, the primary addiction, but how they’re supporting it and, and, and how that there might be some other deeper issues or problems that that could be going on in that person’s life regarding that particular problem or addiction or various other things that they’re struggling with in there, in their lives or, or even in their recovery, is a lot of the times what tends to happen is that people will walk into a 12 step program or walk into a treatment center. And they think that the only problem that they have is they’re drinking or enter using, or some people go into a loss and sexual addiction, some going to gambling, some going to gluttony and eating. Um, so there’s all kinds of different addictions or, uh, issues or problems or instincts that can create powerlessness and unmanageability in their lives. So who determines powerlessness and unmanageability? The only person that can decide that is the person is me, is you, we’re the only ones that can decide whether or not we’re powerless and that our lives have become unmanageable. And that is, that is also determined by how the person grew up, uh, how the person was, was taught to handle things, uh, how much is their ego getting in the way? A lot of the times, people won’t even reach up, reach out for help until their asses are falling off until they’ve, they’ve gotten themselves into such a pickle. Uh, and it’s a such a problem that they’re almost to, you know, when a lot of this could have been prevented by asking for help. So just the admission of asking for help sometimes can be really challenging for most people. And I would rather control things and manage things my own way. And I don’t need anybody or anything to tell me how I’m supposed to be running my life. And that’s, that’s what we that’s, that’s what we all face as humans, uh, in this world. And there’s a lot of, uh, things that we’ve already been conditioned to do where we’ve been conditioned to think certain ways we’ve been, we have conditions of values and beliefs. We have conditions of, uh, past experiences and hurts and pains and traumas and good times also. Um, there is a lot of, uh, judgments that we have within our thinking. Uh, there’s a lot of labels and identities that we have within our thinking. And a lot of these things all start from our thinking. Uh, everything starts from our thinking, our thinking, and then it goes into our bodies and then our bodies hold onto a lot of the things that we think, and then our emotions also get impacted. So those, those that, that whole process, depending on where we come from or what’s happened throughout our lives, um, it all starts from our thinking. And so there’s, there’s a lot of digging into those, those values and beliefs, those, those things that we’ve been conditioned to do, and to think, and to behave and to problem solve based on what we saw. Um, and so all of us have various different struggles in our lives. Uh, it’s not just alcoholism or drug addiction or some other type of struggle, uh, anxiety, stress, depression, uh, being overwhelmed. Um, all these things are all signs of us trying to manage and control our lives. Um, and then we get into other types of substances or addictions, and we just go down this path of just hell eventually. And a lot of the times we’ll spend the most of our lives trying to control things and trying to manage things. And all we really have to do if we want it to stop is just admit powerlessness and unmanageability. And as a result of that, we actually find freedom and we actually find solutions, you know, and, and there’s so much more to this. I am going to dig into the 12 and 12. I just wanted to kind of just do this first little introduction into this. And then I’m going to start reading and digging into the 12 and 12 and start reading the steps and start discussing my views on it. My, uh, my, my experience with it. And hopefully you get something out of it and that it helps you. And if it doesn’t help you, um, don’t worry about it. You know, uh, this isn’t for everybody. This is just my 31 years of sobriety experience, my 30 years of working in the industry or substance abuse. Um, so this is my journey and my experience that I’m sharing with you that has worked for me, and it doesn’t work for everybody. And so if this doesn’t work for you, don’t worry about it. Take what you want and leave the rest, take nothing and leave the rest. Doesn’t it doesn’t matter. Um, I’m just trying to share my experience, strength and hope in hopes that it does help somebody. And if it doesn’t it doesn’t. Um, so thank you very much for being here. Uh, subscribe to our YouTube channel, uh, our website, our social media platforms on Facebook, on Instagram, on Twitter, we’re all there. Um, and I, and, and I’m looking forward to sharing more with you. So have a great day Mahalo